Friday, December 31, 2010

"I Could Be Stuck Here, For a Thousand Years" [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11KD3gN6Bus&feature=BF&list=MLGxdCwVVULXe_0XnU-QPLeR3VYHj3ogAQ&index=12]

     Another year is coming to a cessation, a page in the Book of Life being turned and never to be flipped back to again. With that being said, I felt the need to express why the title of my blog happens to be If Life Were a Movie. Sure, initially it was a hasty decision due to a fight with my parents and the lack of inspirational music in the background as the fight ended, drawing my mind to see such differences between what movies feed us and teach us to expect and what realistically happens. But, now, I like to think the title takes on many different meanings and dimensions.
     If life were a movie... oh, we could go on forever with "if"s. That is where I come into picture, prepared with my favorite slippers, a fully charged laptop, and some sort of snack as brain food. All that amounts to me being able to write about how it isn't a movie, how life sometimes sucks, until my fingers are sore and carpal-tunnel is surely in its beginning stage. If life were a movie, my pastor would have eventually come onto stage and apologized to the Black-American toddler who was ignored. If life were a movie, I would submit my story about the Optimist ceiling, win the writing contest, and the builder would come meet me and tell me that the ceiling meant something to him too. But life's not a clichéd movie, one that contains picturesque endings or one door always opening after the last one closes, thus giving me freedom and ability to write about things that puzzle and aggravate me. I explore how life = one shot and the biggest waste of that shot is staring the variations of "if"s (what if, if only, etc) in the face and proceeding to miss what is in front of you. 
   If life were a movie, all the problems would have a glorious end, every tussle would be ceased triumphantly, but it's not. Therefore, mistakes are inevitable and permanent, with no Mr. Clean Magic Eraser able to do the job. So instead of sitting and watching your mistakes like spilled milk, clean it up move on, leaving behind everything that is yesterday's news and buckling up for what is next. 

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

My Racism Essay for World History. Feedback appreciated :)

What is racism? Where does it come from? How do we indirectly perpetuate it?
Racism is the act of not just distinguishing that someone has a different color but judging them because of their shade, making accusations based only on their skin's tint. I see racism frequently, I see it brushed under the carpet like crumbs before company arrives. Starting in my own life, a number of my good friends are members of the Carolina Country Club, as well as some of my family. Only about a month ago did I learn that Black-Americans are not admitted under any circumstance. I ruminate over the countless afternoons I spent there, the food cooked by the staff I've consumed, the time this summer I jumped in during break and how embarrassing that was. All that time, I was oblivious to the fact that I was supporting a racist association. Every towel I threw into the bin by the door as I exited, someone with a darker shade of skin and black hair would not have permission to touch.Yesterday, I was going to the club to grab dinner and workout with a couple friends. Instead, I had my brother pick me up and take me home. I would  not knowingly perpetuate racism anymore.
Racism exists everywhere, in industry, restaurants, churches, schools. Little blonde-hair, blue-eyed, ivory skinned girls are to wear pink and green smock dresses and socks with ribbon lacing the top. At least my sister and I and our friends did. Dark skinned girls wear Baby Phat and Reeboks, or so I recall from my four years of public elementary school. In Better Homes and Gardens, the magazine my mother treasures so much, I have never once seen anyone darker than my skin color. It seems as if people with darker skin do not even exist in that magazine and our Vineyard Vines catalogs, as if anyone not Caucasian cannot be models, as if they are not even existent at all. Restaurants, churches and schools are all one category: association by economic and racial status. Yes, some people are lower-class and hangout with the kids who are at the opposite end of the spectrum, some people with opposite skin colors do go back after church to eat Sunday supper together, but it is rare. In my years at St. David's, I saw that beyond anything. The kids may play on the jungle gym together at recess, but the black girl's mother and white girl's mother would not be found dead sharing a meal together.
Throughout my project, I felt like I was participating in another redundant project about a nation that will soon fall under the title of forgotten projects. I may still feel that way, but I also seized a decent piece of information to be used as an argument. While researching, I came across the fact that the shade of one's skin in Brazil determines economic and social status, entirely. All the business executives are lighter skinned, all the prominent people's skin is lighter than the rest, as if that makes them superior. Even their actors' skin is about the same hue as my own, lighter than the majority. I found that out while I was petsitting. Taking a rest from my book, I turned on the television and came across Disney Channel's "Pass the Plate" (only my favorite of their weird, educational commerials.) Bananas were the food of choice in this clip, and after a few countries talking about bananas in their cuisine, a guy and a girl from Disney Channel Brazil flashed onto the screen and began to speak about their favorite way to eat bananas. In the twelve seconds the pair were on the screen, I examined their skin, flawless and glowing, definitely airbrushed but also a light-grayish hue, lighter than most Brazilians I've ever seen. Couldn't Disney even go against the confines of the social norms and follow their own advice in accepting everyone? I suppose no.
Not only is racism evident in my life, it occurs in non-fiction literature and history dating further than we know.  In the most recent book I read about racism, The Help, based on truth in the 1960s, racism continued like it were the law. Women did not work but treated line-upholding as their jobs. They paid their black maids little money and in turn expected them to raise their children, in every way but sculpting their minds and sharing their opinions. Spoiler Alert: the haughtiest of all the white women arranges a "bathroom initiative" where all white families who have maids should place a separate toilet on the home's premises, just for the black maid to not give their children "diseases." In this novel, particularly, racism is suggested greatly and not at all indirectly. Now that racism is not the popular choice, people decide to slyly exhibit their hate towards people of different shades. They refuse to admit someone into their establishment, to be lumped with a different race by wearing resembling clothes, to speak the same or act the same, to hangout with people who's grandparents hated theirs. And within these simple actions, we create an indestructible infraction, a schism neglected and never to be repaired.

Sunday, December 26, 2010

"I Felt a Piece of My Heart Break." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nxPT3O-X4vc

     Every time I've heard "I don't want you in this family" from my sister, something sparks within me. Sure, there is a pang of hurt and dejection, but beyond that, there is a building backbone and newfound stability. Each time she says it is like adding an extra mile to the run even if it burns. Each time I become better. Each time I have exceeded the last. And eventually, when my marathon comes, I'll be the one to crash through the finish line before the rest, savoring the moment and knowing this moment is mine to seize because I didn't let her in the way.
    

Friday, December 24, 2010

A Misconception or Misdemeanor?

     "Now everyone turn around and look at that beautiful little girl standing up," sounded about as nice as if the Crystal Ball in New York actually slammed against the ground at full speed. Everyone turned to see a precious, two-foot tall, Madame Alexander doll of a girl standing on her chair.
      I stared in wonderment at Paster Horner, the senior pastor at the corporation we call "church." Minutes before, he'd said that since most of the young children were at the earlier Christmas eve service, anyone under 18 should stand on their chair (since in the sunday sermon, young kids stand on their chairs while the congregation stands and everyone sings) and sing along with the people standing. Of course, it was a lame attempt at joke and not to be taken seriously. People laughed half-heartedly, and I think I felt my eyes roll, annoyed at the 39,210 bad joke I've heard the pastor tell.
     The congregation stood then, taking Pastor Horner's stupid sentence as cue to begin the last song. The song dragged on, similar to little girls attached to their blankets with no inclination to pick the blanket off the floor. All sat, reverting their attention to the idiotic commander of the church. He proceeded in telling everyone to look at the all-American, blonde-hair, blued eye, beautiful four-year-old girl. From my corner seat, I hopped on top of my other leg to get a better view. Another young girl came into sight, standing a little less gloriously in the spotlight. It was evident that she was black, her skin not too dark but yet a deep mocha. I felt embarrassed, ashamed, but mostly angry. Rage and heartache flowed to the tips of my toes. I told my dad that another girl was standing, which he smartly replied to by advising me to tell the pastor. The pastor, of a Christian church, ignored the little Black-American girl. Since the Bible says we're all made in God's image, isn't that a sin? Unsettledness and twinges of anguish continued deep within me. Snapping inside me was the last of my tolerance to racism and unnecessary prejudice , which I have seen too much this past week. I bit my lip to exert my anger as humanely as possible, grasping the seat to help myself from exploding in front of the entire church.
     I watched the end of the program with bitterness towards the man who dedicated me to the church, holding me before I could rebuke it,  and knew a seed of disrespect was being sewn within me. A seed that only needed time to be grown and would eventually sprout from my tips and all would see it and be forced to acknowledge it.

Oh Na Na, What's My Name? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6xkSvxUmsvY

I'll tell you, but will you remember?
High school girl's genuine-ity seems about as existent as the boogie man. It is believed in by select people and from time to time, but mostly used as a joke. Three parties, thirty more facebook photos and I really wonder: who is my friend and who just poses with me for their picture count to increase on the Social Network. The questions pound in my head, desperate to be heard and answered. Are they worth my time? Do they care? Is it the wrong crowd? Will these friendships last?
I'm just ordinary girl wanting to make my voyage through high school as painless as possible. As I maneuver through the halls, I bump into you. You ask me my name and I say...
I'll tell you, but will you remember?

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

A Piece of Poetry

Thinking over the events of last night,
I realize one thing above all:
my favorite sight is your smile.



Friday, December 17, 2010

Karma

    National Let's-Just-Give-Jenny-A-Hard-Time Day was today. Sorry if you missed this glorious occasion. Starting with someone texting me an hour before I needed to get up about lunch today (could you at least tell me something important if you're going to wake me up?) and ending with this girl at a Christmas party, my day was full from start to end of people who are about to be forced to take a swig of their own medicine. 
    This afternoon, I went home, got dressed for a Christmas party and went with my white elephant gift and holiday spirit at arms length. Shortly after walking through the door at the party, I encountered a girl who I knew would get under my skin until the minute we had gone our separate ways. A drama queen doesn't even do her justice. Standing in front of a person she had met a mere few seconds ago, she spouted off about a girl who wears too much makeup and smells bad, giving me a desire for her to have a bad day and just rub it in her face. As I let go of that, everyone retreated upstairs, where for almost an hour we just talked and chilled. Not once, not twice, or even thee times did The Girl look over and give me a smug look of this-is-my-territory-you're-encroaching, making me want to step on "her" territory even more. Remember, two can play this game. 
    Dinner came and went, complete with her numerous malicious looks and smirks. I sat eating, trying to be polite and not reciprocate in a much more hateful manner. Directly after, white elephant began. I had no idea what the presents would contain. All I knew was which present was mine and what it had: five of the ugliest unused nail polishes my eyes had ever laid on. My number was five, not good or bad. The Girl's turn approached, the number directly before mine. She looked at me, grabbed the last present with wrapping paper, which somehow she knew I had been speculating. The Girl grabbed it and ever-so-viciously tore away at the beautiful metallic wrapping, aware my eyes were on her. She received some alarm clock, pretty cool but not the best. Next was my turn. My present was good but not spectacular, definitely an unfairly good trade for what I gave. It consisted or some bath soaps, hand sanitizer and lotion...the typical gift when it is an all girls party. People continued picking gifts until someone stole The Girl's used-to-be perfectly wrapped gift. In turn, she picked another present and it was even better. How is this fair? I silently screamed, angry beyond control that she was being rewarded for being a brat. The last numbers picked their gifts and The Girl's was stolen again. This time, I wouldn't even look and see her flaunt how wonderfully everything turned out for her. I glanced up quickly and saw that my ugly nail polishes were being given to her, for she had stolen some of my joy that evening and now her dandy gifts were stolen as well.
    Hahahahahahaha karma. I once had felt bad about bringing such an outrageously terrible gift, but now was filled with an evil contentment. What goes around comes around. To be able to try to show someone their place, you have to get out of yours to begin with. 

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Our Beloved Optimist

  Most mornings I drearily hoist myself out of the Optimist Park pool after swimming, head to the locker room, shower, and try to get dibs on the "big" aka handicapped stall. Each day after I claim my stall, or one that is about as wide as Stewie's head in Family Guy, I try to remember to look up. Tired from waking before the rooster crows, exhausted from swimming so much I am surprised my gills have not come in yet and not prepared for another day of high-school humiliation and lunch in the library, I strive to find even a fleeting glimpse of security in an ever-changing lifestyle. Beyond the confines of the plastic, or whatever material makes up those cold, hard-as-steel fences between stalls, the locks protecting my nakedness and the slimy, wet floor, there is a sky that is always blue.

    Little do people know, the locker room ceiling of Optimist contains a hope that no one or nothing else can produce. I glance up to see the cotton-candy blue roofing and take a deep breath, reminded of the life and breath that no family strains or school stresses can rob from me.  Occasionally, I wonder about the builder of Our Beloved Optimist. Did he know, as he ordered his men to place in the ceiling joists and the panels, that he would give hope to a deranged, high-school dreading adolescent? I stare up at the ceiling once more before continuing getting dressed, thinking about the person who had the light sapphire panels added. I ponder that maybe, maybe, they as well looked at the soft indigo paneling, their spirits being lifted each second their gaze lingered on that dusty-blue sky.

EDITING NEEDED. I am submitting this for a Point of View writing competition, demonstrating a view different from most others who come into contact with the Optimist ceilings. Please even leave quick comments or tips!

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Disconnected from the Devices

         After yet another long, tumultuous day, me and the IBM Stinkpad congregate with our other outsider of a friend, the iTouch. Totally disconnected from any texting, facebook messaging or chatting, I sit down to journal my thoughts into this piece of...iPaper?
         One last attempt for an apology with my sister, two SmartLunch sessions, three tests, four of us at the dinner table, five problems Mrs. McNally ignored when I asked, six portfolio add-ons (four short) and seven minutes more of babysitting than needed, I find myself here. I swear, each day gets longer. The minutes are less condensed, airy silences filling them and pauses of indefiniteness fall more often. The days come in single-file lines, just as elementary school kids follow the line leader, except there is no designated caboose in life. Annoying as it may be, I am the door-holder, waiting for the last of the kids to come so I may resume my place in line, only for the end to be nonexistent.
           Solutions to my problems are fewer and farther between, forcing me to take on the role of my uncle... solving government contingency, except in my own life. The battle remains between the side of me saying I just need a break and the side that conveys to me that courage is built from never stopping. That sector of my subconscious was proven wrong today, as I slipped into my room to calm down from another dinner table argument. My first tear in months was shed, my strength and resistance being arrested, or maybe never there to begin with. While I disgracefully allowed my sister to seize the better of me and throw it away, that tear was a reflection of the one last hope I have. The single desire that stands alone like the nerdy kid when teams are picked in P.E. The single desire to not be subject of ridicule from my ruthless sister, the single desire to not be on the outside looking in.

Tuesday, December 07, 2010

Everything Happens For a Reason http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yIzIEwNVWq4

           A divine symbol? Maybe not, but I can't see what else this morning was supposed to mean when added to this afternoon. Or, I could just be over-analyzing as always.
          This morning, after a dreadful swim practice (if only for the reason of frigid weather, less than half of the showers working at the pool and an agonizing stomach ache), I went home with my friend where we would kill time and get ready for school on another late-start Wednesday. After dressing, doing the ordinary make-up and discussing boys, my friend and I ate breakfast and hurried into her grandfather's car, because both her parents work. Not normally do I run into people with the exact same voice as my grandfather, whom I have deliberately not maintained contact with except the mandatory "hi"s and visits. Seeing this coincidence as abnormal, I reflected on my grandfather's age and what that means. He will not be present for me as I get my actual first job, as I graduate college or even as I walk down the aisle (if I ever do). My grandfather is a temporary gift, something that will eventually wither and fade as flowers do after the first winter's frost. So, after I walked through the door of my house, placed my bags down and ate, I called my grandfather. Title it fate, or just a coincidence, but my grandfather, who seldom answers the phone, picked it up today when I called. From then, we continued to talk aimlessly about books, farms, singers at my mother's wedding and other random topics. But while the points of conversation may not have been meaningful, the conversation itself was. I spoke, for a solid thirty minutes to a man that is fundamental in how I came to be (literally, I would not be here without his existence) and it does not matter the topic on which we spoke. Instead, the fact that we did talk does. He could be gone tomorrow, without as much warning as a deer dashing into the road while your eyes and fingers are on the radio controls. And perhaps he will be gone...in a week, three months, two years, but I want to hold onto the pieces of him that I can: the conversations about irrelevant subjects, the laughs that I will forever cherish, and the memories along with way.

Sunday, December 05, 2010

"Sometimes We All Get a Little Broken" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmey1k7WXdc

         "Sometimes, we all get a little broken. [...] A little broken. [...] At what point do you get so broken that it's time to just get thrown away?" [Maureen Johnson's Scarlett Fever]. We each have our share of broken moments, some  more than others, but nonetheless, they are unavoidable. We hold onto whatever we can: God, family, friends, money, alcohol, drugs, a single constant in the blazing fast changes that whirl around us to no end. Tears make situations hurt more, but being strong and attempting to move on brings our breaking to be that much more critical.
         Holding on is the easy part, when looked at from each aspect. It is not similar to hanging off of a cliff, where falling off and dying is the more attractive choice. Instead, it is deliberate whereas letting go of the ledge comes easily when one has no more strength. Finding a way to not ruin everything else we have organized and participated in is the difficult part. School, work, neighborhood, church... each place is perceptive to changes in attitude, sometimes costing us more than we signed up for. A serious job loss leading into poverty, an ugly divorce, domestic abuse, fill in the blank are all factors that we may not be able to control. Coping methods are problematic, coming without naturally without choice and only making things worse. Due to that, the kids in the struggling family end up with Fs in half of their classes, finding no relief at home and releasing their angst on school. Consequently, people surrounding them acknowledge changes in our actions and interrogate the details folded beneath the rug perfectly, indirectly forcing our decision.
        Keep going as best as we did before or just forgetting our attempts? It is painful, brutal, and life-wrenching when the decision is the latter. When we see "what's the point?", when being downcast is the norm. Anti-depressants don't solve it all. Sports don't offer aid either. Most temporary resorts leave us more unraveled then before, where we are frayed past the edges. And brokenness continues... Thus, when are we too broken and need to just be thrown away? I explore the question thoroughly, aware of the subjectivity of it. I find that I feel similar to the person described above more and more now. Friends are made but no real moments of realization in who will survive high school with me and who the true friends are. Family struggles run deeper by the day, another layer of icing off the cake before there is none left. Religion having been fed to me from all angles, socially, familial-ly, and mentally last year at a private Christian school, St. Davids and now having to distinguish: is this my faith or my parents? Do I really yearn for this or only pretend to because it makes life easier to get along with my parents? Senses of belonging linger in my book as I close it and no where else. With three kids and two closer in age, sharing the same friends, you'd think I would have adjusted to their exclusion, but no. Christmas is the absolute last thing I want right now: all the siblings home to bask in the unhappiness in my family that can't be placed aside for the briefest of moments. As all these thoughts flood my brain, overwhelmed just by thinking about it, I wonder, maybe I am just too broken to be fixed.

Saturday, December 04, 2010

Sister Suck

        Sisters are the worst thing in the world, at least in my experience. While some sisters come to a compromise of give and take, being best friends forever, my sister and I have never found that balance. My sister, Megan, and I have always (as my mom says) had "strong" personalities. Consequently, our heads bump frequently. Actually, who am I kidding? They always do.
       While I just typed that I believed the balance is delicate, I quickly backspaced, sure that it is in fact not very sensitive at all. Megan, though, happens to be a jerk who is two-faced, putting on separate acts for everyone save my parents and me. Everything I do, every accomplishment, every outfit, goes under her silent speculation. At times, I will muster all my courage into telling her to stop, that we need to meet in the middle. Feeling similar to the protagonist and hero, I am only shot by the villain who retorts dumbly, playing innocent, denying crime in her actions. I am forced to step back, know that I am emotionally the bigger person, overstepping her sly tricks.
       I really enjoy ending my entries with solutions, realizations, revelations... whatever they may be generally referred to. Sadly, I do not have one. While I wish I did, I wish that fourteen years would be enough time for us to work out the problem, wishes are just balls of gas blazing through the sky or glimpses of 11:11 as we steal peeks at the clock during class. There is no solution and I doubt that we may ever come to one. The desire of a justification still exists, as I can honestly say that I would be more elated than distressed if Megan were to be gone and I don't want to go on feeling that way. After-all, she is my sister. I may have learned to apologize for her when I meet someone who knows her, but she is my sister. Elucidating on what that truly represents is difficult for me, more probably because it has a more negative connotation than positive, but being sisters counts for something. Looking back upon this blog, that is her redeeming grace: we are sisters. It may not stand for anything pleasant, but it cannot be changed and sounds about as precious as pink bows and polka-dotted ribbons. And, perhaps, one day it will be legitimate, a significance of friends tied by blood that endured and shared life together. But that remains a huge perhaps.

Friday, December 03, 2010

I remember hearts that beat. I remember you and me. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ehbl1wFv8aY

          Looking back to the blissful times of middle school, excluding the drama, the heavenly days of the heated summer, the carefree days of childhood, we see ourselves desiring and reaching towards the past, but never actually acquiring it. As I sit at this computer, leg bent and other dangling in my preferred position, the melody and lyrics of "Still" by Matt Nathanson (link in the title) float through my ears and into my brain. I contemplate the times, in proximity as near as last week, that I created avoidable botches. I observe my daily diction, occasionally humiliated by it, and ponder at how I could have changed that situation just by words I could have manipulated differently.
        This summer provides ample examples of how I left relationships and events neglected. It carries a heavy stench to replay events in my mind without the "undo" button where all returns to how they were before the lethal mistake was made. Especially, I recall how I delayed dealing with some of my middle school friendships. I carried the friendship far enough so that after the year started, I had a reason to bring the relationship to a cessation. Then I allow the relationship to fall as it will, similarly to leaves in the fall, the ultimate reason for the abrupt end being fear.
         I tremble at the termination of times of gaiety. I was afraid, mainly of spoiling the fun before it needed to end. The party needn't relinquish because of me, so I backed away instead of bucking up and putting a little more effort into being the friend I should have. As it turns out, I look at the relationships with distress and regret. The friendships remain untied and lying in the course our lives, a slight interaction in the grand scheme of things to become yet another deplored event in my teenage years.

Wednesday, December 01, 2010

Leave My Door Open Just a Crack, 'Cause I Feel Like Such an Insomniac http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8E4iF6HYOs8

      I stay up at night thinking, infrequently, but sometimes, for hours on end. My mind wanders through links of people, events, possibilities the next day, week, or month holds. "Women's brains are like spaghetti, men's are like waffles." My thought process is a living testament to women's brains being lumped in with spaghetti. I ponder over the swim meet tomorrow which leads to the time I went to States last year with my old swim team, which reminds me of Target that we visited and how I need to return photo frames which brings up this summer and the pictures I needed developed from then. It is so insane that my logic moves so quickly throughout and to places years ago, times that have been long forsaken.

     Unfortunately, despite how intriguing this contemplation method is, it introduces my thoughts more to over-analyzation than anything. I begin to wonder: Why did my teacher take six points off for that? Why wasn't I chosen? Why did this happen to my mom? Etc. It kills any trace of good spirits remaining from yet another exhausting day. I am even prompted to wonder: if my life were instead a movie, a superficial journey of a girl surrounded by cameras and with tears produced by eyedrops, would these situations that my mind reads over again and again and again like a broken record player exist? By chance that my life were identical to those we see on blu-ray or while indulging in red cushioned chairs with a bag of greasy popcorn that has as many calories as Michael Phelp's daily meals, would these unpleasant swerves in the road occur? Would these speed bumps continue to feel as if they are Mount Everest? Then I see the fault in my path, the feigned love in movies that is tangible for me. The struggles I battle in relationships may be overwhelming at times but it certainly beats the counterfeit connections and friendships we see on the big screen but progress in expressing an "aww." While the trenches I must climb out of feel like mountain climbing without a rope, I know the prize and victory at the end is real. I know the sunrise I can see as I emerge is not green-screen or a paper background, instead it is as genuine as the reward that will await once I come to the end of each scuffle.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

You've No Clue What You Do To Me [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUkkHOZaTIs&feature=related]

          Last night, I returned from an exhausting and extremely quick Thanksgiving break. On the drive back, my brother took me to Jimmy John's for lunch, an abnormal sub station that makes the sandwich fresh but you do not get to instruct the workers how to make the sandwich as you would in Subway. So, while Ben and I were waiting, patiently, I glanced over to see an easy and absent smile spreading across his face. Ben has three smiles: the polite smile, the I-think-I'm-funny-smile and lastly, the natural smile. The smile softly moving across his face was the natural smile, the most rare of all, and certainly an accomplishment to receive, so I knew this was not just an average text message he was reading.
         Nosy as ever, I glanced over at Ben's phone, which he was grasping as if it contained food and water for a lifetime and he was stranded in the wilderness. As I stole a glance, I saw his girlfriend's name in the recipients box. Then I recognized the familiar smile, one that people had accused me of before.
         Just days before, I had toured the war memorials in Washington DC with select members of my family but had been wholly involved in my cellular device. My dad noted this and told me to put it down. My uncle recognized it and was frustrated that I was texting rather than listening to his spiels about various futile and frankly, boring information. In that evening, I abandoned my interest in U.S. History, perhaps my favorite subject, disobeyed my dad, disrespected my uncle, and ignored some of those who I have the privilege of seeing only once every few months. And instead of savoring such time, I disposed of it by texting the one guy that is set apart from the rest in my mind, the one that would be titled as a long-running crush.
       In films, one sees the actor or actress abdicate all they know to be with their love interest. In The Notebook, we see Allie leave the umbrella she has been raised beneath to be with Noah. Allie deserts her lifestyle of summer mansions for a man who could not afford two pairs of shoes.
       The evening I toured the war memorials, a night I would have still enjoyed completely had my phone been left at home, I discarded treasured time with people and exploration of history. Yesterday, as Ben was consumed by his phone, he ignored one of his largest interests, food,  giving all his attention to his girlfriend. We resign from what we enjoy involuntarily to our lovers. The oblivious smile and withdrawn happiness are testaments that we are victims of our beloved. You have no clue what you do to me, those in movies and reality feel similarly.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Encroachment : Fifty Yard Line.

         The little yellow flag finds itself frantically being swerved through air in a stadium that has enough people to function as an independent country. The ball makes it's way down the field as if it has wings. The crowd goes wild over a sporting event that is a novelty to none. The teams once more line up face to face like two boxers before a bout.
        "Encroachment over the fifty yard line!"  That is the dawn of our futile fortifications, we feel imposed upon or just our guard is let down beyond our comfort. Walls are then built, forged, unnaturally, for we are afraid of being hurt once again. But, unlike in the football movies and games, no ref is available to step in and shield the offense. According to the football definition, encroachment is simply making contact with the opponent before the play starts. Then, why are we so horridly afraid of contact?
          We are bitter cowards in the countenance of an unfamiliar identity. Utterly petrified of being the victim of a vicious crime, one in which we haven't even seen the silhouette of. We risk any possible reward by claiming Encroachment. We lose all possible profits, even the wealth of love, all's deep desire thats at our finger tips is denied.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Finally Find, You and I Collide.

         Daily, each of us interacts with countless people. Just being a few people ahead of a woman in the grocery store line is interacting, it creates an instant or gradual effect on the person watching. Thus, if we are so surrounded by opportunities to encourage and edify just the people that pass on the sidewalk, why don't we? Smiles and small favors are all that do the trick.
         During swim team yesterday,  a moderately slow and poorly-taught swimmer was in  my lane. Routinely, she'd stop when she knew she was holding the rest of the swimmers up and patiently wait for the whole population of our lane to pass. I had just finished a lap when it happened, the event that shaped my day and definitely a moment of revelation. As I stopped at the wall, I spotted the girl in the yellow cap leaning against it, absently allowing much of the lane to pass.
         Knowing I am a speedier swimmer, I wondered what it would hurt to allow her swim in front for the remaining ten minutes left of practice. Realizing it would do more good than hurt, I asked the yellow cap girl, "You wanna go?" And, she simply said "Yes, please," with a lighthearted and grateful tone. It broke my heart to hear those words, speaking volumes through their two syllables. The deed I did was not off of a checklist for being kind, nor for my self-gain. Instead, it was presenting the I'll-just-sit-on-the-floor-it's-no-big-deal girl with a gift that cost me nothing and maybe was priceless to her. Most of the other swimmers (you would think they were competing in the Olympics by their intensity - newsflash- it's just high school swim team!), if not all, swam around her, were entitled and dismissed her from their thoughts instantly. But she deserved more than that. And for the whole ten minutes left of practice, I struggled to not touch her toes as I was too close behind her, but it was worth the while for the girl to apprehend what she merited and how none can arrest that.

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Everyday Is the Start of Something Beautiful (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRwjdJVyHkA)

        Each day contains a new zest, an undiscovered taste, happiness and bliss of an unspoiled experience. When such diction is utilized to detail life, I cannot help but muse about how fortunate I am. My parent's coercing me to visit the doctor and be tested for anti-depressants may be ineffectual and somewhat trifling, but, currently, it is an un-lived and pristine adventure, yet to be molded and explored.
         Every blemish and dysfunction is a blessing, a signature of the maker, a reminder that we at least have the gift of breath and existence. Independent of flaws, we still share one commonality and one superfluous profit, life. While rising in the morning is agonizing and arduous at times, it is a bounty, an undeserved prize. With time remaining in the Clock of Existence, oxygen in one's lungs, and a beating heart, none should lament or moan. Per single day, an irreproachable, novelty of a sunset is draped in the atmosphere's canvas, untrodden opportunities saunter in reaching distance and bridges tarry to be contrived. Without exception, any and every day is a  page in the Story of Life anticipating to be scribbled on, a sheer privilege and nothing meager of one.

What Is Love?

        After watching a halting episode in the odyssey of the television show, Hannah Montana, I am severely aware of this question. On the brink of tears, (yes, endings never cease to fill my eyes with tears) I speculate over the last years of Hannah Montana. Throughout the seasons of life, Miley parades that those in her life, her family, best friend, and boyfriend epitomize the backbone of her strength. As she progresses, approaches relationship troubles, faces contention in the fame, Miley gapes at those closely around her to provide the stability to endure.
       In the show, love is perseverance. Not only do the romantic aspects of Hannah Montana greatly symbolize how love perpetuates. Wherever Miley travels, the arms of her father are the most genial and gracious embrace. Even through their tussles, Miley recurs, conducting an unyielding bond with the single parent remaining.
       While love is relentless and untiring,  Jake and Miley do come to a pitiless, doleful cessation. Together surviving some of the most rapidly changing years, middle school and high school years, Miley and Jake discover their love to be inadequate. Coming out of the combat zone called high school, they find each to be too much sacrifice for too little reward. In the resolution, the few words spoken and the multiple unspoken are some of the most wrenching in the life of Hannah Montana.
        The river bend brings change. As Jake and Miley retreat, the previously seen Jesse comes into the panorama once again. The dreamy, charming, and definitely-more-attractive-than-Jake guitarist and rocker adds an undiscovered element of spontaneity and chance for Miley. Jesse shows Miley that while coping with her double life is not only inconvenient but distressing, she is worth the atonement. Miley grasps how Jesse's generosity far outweighs hers and is compelled to announce her secret to the entire world for his and best friend, Lilly's, sake. Miley manifests the endurance of love. She leases her one constant and steady variable, her identity of Hannah Montana, to seize the leap in order to meet Jesse halfway.
         Lastly is Lilly, the loyal Lola and ardent pal since before the awkward ages of the sixth grade. Finally, a split comes between the two inseparable teens. Their dream college accepts Lilly but not Miley, forcing both to make a pivotal decision. Selfishness or selflessness? Me or My Best Friend's and My Relationship? While the ending leaves the audience semi-unsure and certainly expecting more, Miley does forgo Hannah's identity for the sacrifices Lilly made in order to keep Miley's secret and so no more sacrifices will be made. In this crucial episode, we see Miley abandon her typical selfish character and succumbs Hannah existence. She embodies the endurance of love and allows no obstacle an avenue between her and the ones fundamental to her.
       Miley says Love Is Perseverance; however, it is solely a show, a movie in principal. So, since life is no movie... What Is Love?

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Raise Your Glass If You Are Wrong In All The Right Ways (do annual fights with the rents' count?)

        In movies, after the glorious apex and climax, an inspirational song resounds as all the ruffled edges are solved and parallel plots are oriented with each other. But, in life, nothing ever ends so smooth-edged-ly and picturesquely. No, life is not ideal, and that is where My Story begins.
        I am a mere teenage girl with such fantasies as the next, only hoping to be relieved of these horribly tensioned and agonizing juvenile years as soon as possible. Today, my parents and I shared another brutal vilification. After the short-winded but slicing remarks, and my-parents-would-not-even-compromise culmination, I expectantly waited to hear the dandy, life-is-wonderful song in the background. Yet, no music, except the fridge door slamming in melody with the microwave's resonance. Departing to my room with fleeting contentedness of balmy pumpkin bread in my stomach, I was in search of the song to conclude the ardor of this afternoon.
        Tuning my radio from the reckless rock through oldies and country ballads, I landed pathetically on the closest song, I Gotta Feeling by the Black Eyed Peas [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0MrqkiHWCnM]. The song, though acutely distant from a compelling carol, gifted me with the disposition to create this blog. Haste-fully completing the prerequisite steps to write in the blog, I am lead to this point in time. All the thoughts in my mind are paved in response to the one shadowing, bully-on-the-playground, recondite consideration: If Life Were similar to a Movie, what, aside from my parents' and my previous debacle, would be disparate?